I'll be darned. She just went ahead and did it.

[fostermom]

Remember my post a couple weeks ago about my nutty SIL wanting to join in our Disney trip? All of your strength vibes worked and I told her no...we already had reserved a condo and didn't have any extra room.

I just got an email from her. She's booked a condo for her family at the same resort and wants to "hook up so we can all do Disney together".

I don't want to 'do Disney' with her! She makes me crazy! :mad: Not to mention that her DD is a petite 4-year-old. My kids are all over 48" tall and want to ride everything, including things my niece won't/can't ride.

I obviously can't control them taking a Disney vacation at the same time as us. But why does she insist that we do stuff together?

Thanks for letting me whine a little. :o

[RosieG]

OMG, I can't believe that she had the nerve to do that. At least with the height difference, you can go to a different part of the park without her. If all else fails, tell her you are not going to punish your children by making them do the kiddie rides.

[My2Blessings]

Wow! That took a lot of nerve. I would tell her that you already have a lot of your trip planned, but offer to meet up with her lunch or dinner a few days. It is not ideal, but it may get you off the hook.

[arubagirl]

well I am sure she will go on the smaller rides when her DD cant reach the height requirements on the "big" rides with your kids.. maybe meet her someplace in the park for a few "family" rides, for lunch and then the parade.. Remember you will have to deal with her the rest of your life so maybe go in thinking this is just a vacation not like she is moving in with you:)

[Admin 100thousandaire]

OK, I would say sure we can hook up. But I would inform her that your children will be riding every ride that they are tall enough for, tell her that you will not forgo any rides due to her kid's height. Let her know upfront so she is not disappointed (or wasting her money waiting for rides they cannot get on). Let her know that you guys have a set list of rides that you are planning to ride, etc and that if she wants to meet up when you all do lunch, then fine. I would in no way alter your family's plans to accommodate her height challenged child (spoken from a 5' tall mouthy person). What is super nervy is if she expects you all to follow her around and go on all the rides that her daughter is limited to.

Since you can't fight the system, make your limits known loud and clear.

We went with a huge group of friends to Disneyland last June, we all separated and went our separate ways. No big deal for us or them.

[candied]

Wow - that is insane. I like everyone elses solution of maybe meeting for lunch or dinner.

Candace

[Admin shilton]

Ummm tell her something came up and you had to cancel? It should work until she runs into you there. Ooops, plans changed again lol. Ok I am rude but really I would be so ticked I wouldn't care about being rude.

[My2Blessings]

You know there is a certain amount of truth to the idea... that vacationing with the in-laws is a bad idea. I love my in-laws, but we are planning a family vacation for April and it has been stressful!! I would just suggest meeting up for lunch or dinner and then enjoy the rest of your trip.

[nolagirl]

That's so rude. I would take a look at your own schedule and see where you can fit her in. Like others said maybe do a meal or two (but I would not try to cancel and re-book a sit down meal, just do counter service). Maybe you could attend the park opening ceremony at the magic kingdom one day together. Then head in and ride the fantasy land rides first thing (the best time of day to do so) then head over to the toon town opening for autographs and photos with the characters. Then split up when you are done. Fantasmic would be great to see together. If you get there early to get good seats you will have quite a bit of time to wait. It might be a good time to catch up and talk. Other than the things you don't mind doing with her family, I would probably keep the rest of my plans a secret. She needs to plan her own vacation and not just plan to tag along with you.

If it were me though I would definitely make sure she understands that this is a family vacation, a time for you and your hubby and kids to spend time together. Disney is such a special family trip to do, especially for families that don't go often. You deserve to do what you want while you are there and not spend time worrying and stressing about someone else. Especially someone that invited themself to go along. Just stand up to her (in the nicest way that you can) and tell her what you will and won't be doing together and then hopefully you can let it go. Get back to all the planning and excitement. Don't let her bring you down!

[gin3]

How rude!! I can't belive she did that I would never impose on someone elses vacation. Next time you plan a vacation mums the word with her, lol! I agree with pp and meet up for meal or maybe when you get back to the condo. Are you planning any down time at the condo? THank God your children are taller!!!

[Deb]

well, I think it you must have such a great family, such a good time together that she is envious and just wants to be a part of it all.

I would just say sure we'll meet up, and tell her 2 or 3 times to do dinner or lunch she could pick from.

[nurscindi]

This is what you do. Tell her your headed to Epoct...then go to Animal Kingdom or something else instead. Give her your cell number, but then let it go to voice mail. When you finally call her back just say "oh it's so loud I couldn't hear it". Next day do same thing, only tell her "oops...left it in the hotel" or something. Eventually she will get the hint. Make arrangements to hook up for dinner ONCE and the rest of time just carefully dodge the woman. Ain't no way in hell i'd spend my vacation with someone I don't like to be around in daily life. Forget that.

[fostermom]

Hee hee - this is why I love to come to these boards. You all have a way of taking a yucky situation and making it seem so much better. Some of your comments actually had me laughing about my predicament.

You're right, arubagirl, it's not like she's moving into our home! *finding some wood to knock on real quick*

And, Scarlett, love the idea about telling her we cancelled...too funny. I love your 'ditch her' tricks, too nurscindi!

I had planned on a leisurely dinner at the condo on our arrival night. Nope - not now. That would be her chance to start drinking and making scenes. I just booked a dinner at one of the Disney resorts...for a party of five - my family only. Call me a horrible person, I don't care. :p

So that leaves room for me to follow the rest of your advice and offer to have them over for an early dinner the second night and then go see Fantasmic with us. I can live with that.

I think they have to leave on Monday because she has to go back to work on Tues. So I'll just have to get through the one evening. Whew. I can do that, right girls?

[My2Blessings]

On evening won't be bad at all. You can do that... just chalk it up to good laughs for later in life... once you are over the shock of whatever she ends up doing over dinner that night. ;)

[Admin Irock]

Since I got here too late to give advice, I can't wait to hear the stories!!!:D

Sorry, really, I am sympathizing with you, really, I am.....;)

[Bolofordeals]

Fostermom are we related? LOL...your SIL sound just like my SIL! I think if they insist on going, just follow through with your plans. If the 4 year old is not tall enough to ride the rides then let her deal with it. I would not let it ruin my vacation. Don't feel obligated to do things with them the whole time.

[fostermom]

Fostermom are we related? LOL...your SIL sound just like my SIL!

We can't be related because you are much more witty than I am, lol. Seriously, you always crack me up.

I think everyone just has their own 'in-law' who is the bane of their existence. For many, it's their mother-in-law. For me, it's my sister-in-law.

Did I mention that I bought a lake house with her 10 yrs ago? When will I ever learn? :o

[Bolofordeals]

Did I mention that I bought a lake house with her 10 yrs ago? When will I ever learn?
Okay Fostermom...new idea....call her and tell her that plans have changed and you all have decided that you are going to the LAKE HOUSE and that you will meet her there! Then you all come to Florida to Disney (which BTW is about 1 hr. from my house).

[STACEY IN CALIF]

Since I got here too late to give advice, I can't wait to hear the stories!!!:D

Sorry, really, I am sympathizing with you, really, I am.....;)

Me too!!!!!!!!!!!!!