What is it with DH?

[kasmadrigal]

I find it incredible that after years of being together and years of me "trying" to train him, he still forgets the simplest things! This is the second time he has lost his keys for his truck. He had made ignition keys the first time he lost his keys so we have plenty of copies of those, BUT he never made copies of the door key. So, I am on the phone with him on my break at work (he had the day off) and he starts complaining that... "the first time I actually lock my truck with the button at home, it actually locks BOTH doors." I assume by that comment that usually it only worked on one door. This is an old truck, has a key for door and a key for ignition. Supposedly he lost his keys about a month ago (swears that he told me, but I dont remember) and has been using the spare for his ignition and then his "beep beep" button for his doors. Well, he left his wallet in his truck so he couldn't use his spare plastic key thingie from AAA to open his door. So, if he would just bring his keys in the darn house and put them in the box by the front door, then we wouldn't have these problems. And, just in case keys go missing (like they seem to do everywhere no matter who you are), if he would just keep his wallet in the house when he is home, then he would have a spare on him. I just think, at least to me, that having to spend $100 to have a key made from your truck door just because you can't keep keys on you is ridiculous.


THANKFULLY we can "try" to make keys from his plastic AAA key. PLEEEEASE pray that it works because I reeeeealy dont want to spend $100 and have DH take the day off work just to have a key made! :eek:

[brit83]

Hope it works out for you. And when you make more spares, make sure you get one too...just in case....;)

[kasmadrigal]

haha I have one for the ignition (since that is all he made). I just dont get guys sometimes. Seems to be the same thing over and over again.

[Admin shilton]

Well, I gotta say I am the one always losing keys. So DH got me a long lanyard to put around my neck with the clip to take the car keys off when I am driving. Well it worked for awhile until I came home one day set the lanyard where the keys go and the clip with the car key and locker thingy wherever. Finally DD found them. You would think the cost of replacement would stop me, because my car has the anti-theft chip in it, and they are costly.

[jchaney121]

I once flushed my keys down the toilet. I was wearing a hoodie sweatshirt, and I had put my keys in my front pocket, and when I bent over to flush the toilet, they slipped out and disappeared down the drain. I never felt like such an idiot.

[penny-penn]

I once flushed my keys down the toilet. I was wearing a hoodie sweatshirt, and I had put my keys in my front pocket, and when I bent over to flush the toilet, they slipped out and disappeared down the drain. I never felt like such an idiot.

Oh my, I put keys in a hooded sweatshirt pocket all the time. I'll have to remember to take them out before I flush!

[kasmadrigal]

Well I am happy to say that DH came home and we were getting ready to go help my dad with his Tahoe (he had surgery, needed someone to take his car home) and I noticed that it was 5:15pm. I said.... OMG LETS GO!!!!!! HURRY HURRY HURRY. DH looked at me like some wierdo. My plan was to get to the Locksmith before they closed (15 min, we live maybe 8 min away). We got there in time, wrote a $2 check (sooo dumb) and left with a brand new shiney car key!!! yea

[clueless]

Well my DH loses his wallet all the time, I mean all the time. After being together for 18 years I cant tell you how many times I have heard "have you seen my wallet?" One thing though, he has always found it, which amazes me:) It may be gone for a month but he always finds it, until now. Its been gone for at least 6 months. It has to be somewhere in our house or somewhere very stupid because he never takes his wallet everywhere with him like I will always take my purse with me. I mean even when he knows where his wallet is he never takes it with him. I know, I know he should for his drivers liscense. I tell him that all the time. He did get his liscense redone and he has that but no wallet and no money that he had in the wallet! He also leaves his keys in his car in our driveway all the time because he knows he will lose them! Plus, heres a bonus I get:) He never puts things away in their proper place, so when I go to use them I cant find them. I tell him everthing has its happy little home and he agrees he just doesnt actually do it.

As I am typing this I am smiling and laughing because as much as this can irratate the **** out of me-I love him to death:) I can just see him now with this "where did I put it" look on his face and I can just hug him. When he was deployed to Iraq for 16 months I would have given anything to be looking for his wallet or to be looking for the toothpaste because who knows where he put it. He may be abscent minded but he's all mine:D Lisa

[kasmadrigal]

Lisa, that was hilarious. Dh does the same thing here half the time. He never takes his wallet with him when I am driving unless we are going to a resturant or something and needs his ID. Drives me absolutly batty because you should always have ID on you. Some officer having a bad day could get you into trouble if he wanted to. And those officer's ARE out there. To me, I just don't see the big idea. His answer to that is "I dont see the big idea either". lol Its a lose lose situation for sure.

And yea, for some reason I am still in love with my hubby to. Go figure because half the time I want to rip his head off.

Hey, does anyone have a good suggestion on how to deal with big personality/role changes in a new relationship? DH is turning 23 and I am 24.... so we both have a lot of growing to do. Though we will always be who we are, we will change things about us as well through time. So, when DH and I got together (reeeeally emotional time for me), I had 200% control of everything. When I got emotional and asked him to leave the house (he moved in after a few months dating, moving out was just my threat, again emotional time for me), he would just be there with roses in his hands, crying, when I got home from work (major cause of my emotional times! haha). After 4 yrs of being together and a yr married, we are not at all dealing with my emotional issues anymore in our relationship... GREAT. BUT, now that he and I are both confident in our status together, he is gaining more "control" over things. I know it sounds funny but it is like OVERNIGHT he went from massages head to toe everynight, picking roses from up the street, helping around the house, always being around for my needs, etc etc... to all of a sudden, coming home and watching whatever "guy" stuff he wants, no romance, going out riding every darn weekend, doing things that I have asked him nicely not to do, etc etc. In other words, he is growing up. He is confident now. He is turning into a man and not just some little boy I met 4 yrs ago.

So, though my logic knows that in all actuality these changes are GREAT for not just him, but for us as well (things should be equal)... my "girlie drive" convinces me that I hate the change. By "girlie drive" I mean that part of most females that says "if the relationship was this way in the beginning, then I except that behavior from you FOREVER!". haha I mean, of course I dont want to come home to a husband that is crying and holding roses because he is so stuck on me that he is afraid I'll leave him... BUT I still want to feel the love ya know? lol We always talk about the fact that he is a working man now so he doesnt have all the time in the world and I get that but I dunno still... hard to let go of control... or even worse, hard to let go of how things were in order to be 100% comfortable with how things are.

Did any of that make sense? I dont want to come across as complaining that DH is a bad person or anything because he isn't at all. He is just turning into a very confident person and I dunno if I am used to that. For instance, he now says things like "if you ever did that, you would so be out the door". I HATE that. I want to know that I could do ANYTHING and you would still hold on to me. Of course, I wouldn't do anything to jepordize our relationship, but I just want to fansatize that I have that control over him like I used to. Is that so hard? Does that little fib hurt a relationship? If so, then I wont nag about it. I just dont see the harm in making me feel that special. :0) haha

[JMac]

I once flushed my keys down the toilet. I was wearing a hoodie sweatshirt, and I had put my keys in my front pocket, and when I bent over to flush the toilet, they slipped out and disappeared down the drain. I never felt like such an idiot.

This honestly doesn't suprise me one bit (not that you did it, just in general). At my last job I handled cell phones and pagers for the company (very large) that I worked for, and at least once a week, a pager or phone went down the potty.


The ones I didn't understand was when they'd bring me the pager, I'd take it from them, and THEN they tell me its been in the toilet. They probably hated the looks I gave them. I do NOT want to touch that thing!

[Aluminum Cloud]

Kas, I've been there. I went from having the upper hand (when he was "chasing" or courting me) to him almost leaving me because I took him for granted. He screwed up too (big time) but I was the one who decided to make a change first. He eventually came around.

As we mature, our relationship changes. But the love/respect has to be there even if everything else changes. I promise you, if you respect him as the head of the household (and you might have a problem with this concept at first.. I did!), he will love you like the queen you are!