Anyone else want to vent about their in-laws?

[COLORADO/MOM/3]

Ok, so I can't REALLY vent to DH because it is his mother, so I thought that I would start a thread so that other people could vent too.

So for Christmas dinner my mother called DH a week or two ago and said that we needed to bring a dessert....so DH volunteered me for a pumpkin roll, no problem. Then we saw her and she says "I hear you are bringing a pumpkin roll, what else are you bringing?"....I say "The pumpkin rolls are pretty big, but I guess maybe we could bring a cherry pie too." :eek: :mad:

So then on Saturday before we left she calls me.
"So you are bringing ALL of the desserts for Tuesday right?"
Me "No, we are bringing a pumpkin roll and a cherry pie."
Her "Well we are having more people than expected and that won't be enough."
Me "Well those people will be bringing sides too right?"
Her "Ok, you just bring the pumpkin roll, cherry pie and some pop. Thanks bye."

:eek: :mad:

So not wanting to ruin the holiday for DH I suck it up (after I did complain some to DH) and bake Christmas morning to bring the darn pumpkin roll, he baked the cherry pie and we bring 4 2-liters of pop. We get there and she has some refrigerated tamales that she is warming up in the microwave, a frozen lasagna, and an uncooked ham that she was only going to warm up for 45 minutes until we told her that since it was uncooked it was going to take a good 3 1/2 hours....she didn't have any sides either. And there only ended up being around 10 people so there was a whole pumpkin roll left and half of the cherry pie!

I don't know why I even still let her get to me...I guess she still knows where to push my buttons!

[Bargain Huntress]

I have yet to understand some thing my mil will do.


She is staying with us for two weeks. Thats along time.

She has a personal problem that requires a diaper. I went in the hall bath to bath the girls and the bath smelled terrible. I kept trying to figure it out. Finaly I took out the trash and discovered she it putting her wet diapers in the bathroom trash and leaving them. YUCK! she doesn't flush the potty and its getting on my nerves.

[grshoppers]

Oh, I'm in...can I vent about my MIL too?

So, she just calls my DH at work and wants to know why I'm not at work today? Hello...he's at work. Do not call him at work to ask him about me. I'm at home...call me. She acts like she is concerned about me, and maybe deep down she is. But what she is really concerned about is if we can afford for me to be off work (I don't get sick days). What she doesn't know is that I worked from home today updating the website. That was what I was going to do in the office anyhow. Plus I've been checking the office voice mail all day. Ugh! It's really none of her business where I'm at and why.

Ok, now my Christmas rant. She tells DH and I that we are eating at 3. Who eats at 3?. Anyhow, we rush from my grandma's and get there right at 3. My BIL is always late, and he is the one with the majority of the meal. What time does he get there...4:30! She admits that she told us earlier so that we'd be sure to leave my family's house in plenty of time. We are never late to her house, so I don't know why she felt like she needed to do this. My BIL is always late - tell him the earlier time!

[jchaney121]

My drama with the in-laws started about 3 weeks ago...

They live about 3 hours away, and every Christmas my MIL starts bugging us to come down for a few days to make cookies, go shopping, etc. Well, DH can never go since he works retail, so I end up taking the kids every year. BY MYSELF. And I always end up coming back from these visits in tears because it all just gets so frustrating. I get snide comments about everything from my weight to how I'm raising the kids to how DH should have married some one that's more like their family. And I never say a word because I don't want to cause any problems and DH is really close to his parents.

Well, I've been keeping my mouth shut for 6 years now, and I just couldn't take it anymore. At the breakfast table one morning, my MIL started in on me(I can't even remember what it was about...that's how stupid the whole thing is.) And before I could even stop myself, a rude comment came back out. So then she is in my face, screaming and acting horrible...right in front of the kids. Needless to say, we left for home very soon after that.

So now I'm not going to the Christmas celebration that they're having this weekend...I'm staying at home and pampering myself. I figure, why deal with all the drama? And now my MIL keeps calling and telling DH and the whole family that I owe her an apology and that I've ruined the holidays...but I figure that she is lucky I'm even letting her see my kids after the way she acted. (AND, on the way home DS5 asks "Why does Grandma hate us so much?)

Whew. Thanks, CM2 for the chance to vent...and I feel your pain. {{{Hugs}}}

[Admin shilton]

Gosh, I am so glad I don't have to vent. It sounds awful you guys I just am not sure I could take it. Here I will pass out the tissues for you all have a good hard cry.

[Deb]

We didn't see any family this holiday, so no unloading to do.

But, I will tell you a great mil, gmil story! We were all on vacation in Alaska, mil was supposed to get married so we all trekked up there. Mil, gmil and I go into a store to lok at their jackets and gmil tells me to try this one on because I am built like whatever family member at home she is buying for and they want to see if it'd fit because we are both so w-i-d-e in the hips. I am like wth??? I try it on, both of them decide it'll prob fit her because it fits me fine and I am bigger then her.
At this point I say I better go check on the kids and leave. I asked my husband to tell me just how big is this other person and he holds his hands out wide and says she is a pretty big gal. I tell him what happened, he says that I am much smaller then her and that can't be what they actually said to me.... can you see my eyes rolling?? Now nothing against big gals, I wear a 14 and am no string bean, but the way they said it just left me with my mouth hanging open.
And we have a photo from that day of the three of us looking over a rail with our backs to the camera. My husband figured that I wanted it deleted, just showing our bums, and I said no. These are the women that told me how big my bottom is and jsut look at theirs. I wish I could post it.
Just one of many, many heartwarming stories I have about my in-laws.

[2boys]

Well, I too feel your pain. But this yr we put a stop to it. As hard as it was DH told her that we cannot continue to sweep all of the crap under the rug. And that we were not willing to do so for the sake of Christmas. Their family has a bad history of not working things out and they just don't speak. Then they get together by force, ie, funeral, holiday, whatever. No one discusses the issues and sooner or later there they are again fighting.

We haven't really talked to her in months. She sent an email last wk asking that we get together. It was hard but DH made the final decision that we would not go. It really stinks because my bil feels the same way we do he just won't say it. Instead he goes and talks about her behind her back. We'd rather just not go. I refuse to have my Christmas ruined by someone yelling and screaming the whole time.

It was our first Christmas without visiting her. She never responded to DH's email. In which he said that we have got to get this all out. Nope, she just ignores that request too. It'll never stop!!

[tmtorrijos]

Ahhh, rants about the MIL. Normally, I could really share in this with all of you, but my in-laws gave us a great present this year. . . . They left the country!

That's right, back to the Philippines from the end of November to sometime early January! I wish me a Merry Christmas! I wish me a Merry Christmas!

[Aluminum Cloud]

I don't have any stories... my MIL and I get along much better now that she has a *new* DIL to focus on! DH's bro got married last year and she is already pregnant with #2, so they keep MIL pretty busy. :D

[frugalflmom]

My in-laws didn't even wish us a Merry Christmas and they live in our attached in-law apartment!! The only time we see them is if they want something.

[WorkinMyQs]

My inlaws are the sweetest people. My only complaint is that my SIL makes our relationship more difficult than it has to be. She and her DH live about an hour away from DH's parents, yet they either spend the weekend there with them or they go spend it with my SIL and her husband. We rarely get to spend time alone with them, and then get the guilt trips thrown on us for not seeing them as often as SIL does. How can we with her monopolizing their time? Neither of us can tolerate spending more than a few hours as a time with SIL so she's the reason we don't get there as often. And if I have them here for the weekend, it's nonstop phone calls from her and uninvited visits. Her husband must be a saint to put up with no alone time with his wife on weekends for over 4 years. Wish those apron strings would loosen up a bit.

[MickiB]

No, not today, thank you. We're fortunate in that there are several other siblings and grandkids for them to focus on. I usually only tick them off around holidays. LOL

[Alli~cat]

This was the nicest Christmas I've had in years. My in-laws finally learned that I have nothing to say to them, and the didn't even speak to me :D. We always do their family Christmas at DH's grandma's on Christmas Eve. There were 16 of us there and they never spoke a word to me. I loved it!! AND they didn't show for Thanksgiving, so it's been a good year for me!! Now to make it to next T-Day w/out seeing or speaking to them. . .

[2choclabs]

Ok..my turn...So my DD arrived 3 weeks early on Dec 20. My DH calls both of his parents and his mom is like well I am at work. Hello, you son is about to have his first kid!!! So anyways...they made it right before I started to push. They left the next day since they host Christmas at their house. So now they are back, came on Sat, leave tomorrow. OMG...my mil is driving me crazy. She has been "helping" by holding the baby while DD sleeps. What does that do for me? She made breakfast this morning and left a huge MESS that I cleaned up. Neither FIL or MIL clean up any mess. MIL only started to clean today when my DH cleaned, so I guess that she thinks that since this is his house she will help him clean (my name is on the house too) I guess I am just chopped liver. She did tell me over thanksgiving that my new hobby would be to take care of my DD and my husband could continue all his hobbies. UGH

And neither MIL or FIL pay attention to the dogs. They don't let them out in the mornings to pee or during the day for that matter. They just rather leave them outside since that is the way the treat their pets.

[gin3]

2choclabs-ouch! I hope you get some rest after they leave.

[woohoo]

I have almost 23 years worth of vents...It would take too long!

[Admin Jorelanu]

My in-laws are fine...heck he shows up for 1 hour on Xmas and *maybe* 10mins on Thanksgiving or somewheres around there.

My parents? Don't get me started.....

My mother has been whining like a 2yr old because my paternal grandmother has been given 30days or so to live and wants my parents to come for a last visit. My mother has HATED her and my Grandfather since day one and doesn't *want* to go, so we all get to hear about that and how she's only going to take care of my father. Whatever...the lady is DYING, couldn't you at least pretend to be nice?

She won't let me see my little brother, says he isn't at *her* house enough. She's NOT home! She goes to the gym for hours and hours and hours every single day but he's supposed to sit at her house just to make her happy.

She's all mad that her house isn't clean. Well DO something about it...going to the gym/shopping 5+ hours a day never got anything cleaned! I have my own house to clean. She didn't of course so now my lil brother gets to clean it while she's at my grandparents. Some vacation for him.... and of course she'll wreck the house within 5 minutes of arriving back home.

Jore

[woohoo]

Oh my, that's really sad. I could at least be nice if my in-laws were dying. Seriously...
And I was nice and put up with their crap for 20 of these 23 years, but I've had enough. If I did show up on their death beds they'd probably just cuss me again or our kids this time.

[Admin Jorelanu]

Yeah..I think what's really upsetting me is that SHE (who hates their guts) gets to say goodbye and I don't.

DH wanted to fly me out there for a few days but they live in the middle of nowhere. You have to fly into one airport, take another plane to a tiny airport and then get a rental with snow tires/chains to drive the rest of the way. I have never driven anywhere but good ol Sunny CA, so I am not up to snow/ice driving.

Supposedly my grandmother is doing a lil better though! Last word I got, she was fighting off the massive infection she has a lil better. I am hoping she hangs in there until the snow/ice melts and then I can fly up.

Jore

[woohoo]

I really hope you get to see her.